torn-by-dreams:

ladynorbert:

…WHAT HAPPENED TO MY XKIT?

I don’t know. Mine seems to be okay, so it’s not a universal thing? What is wrong with it?

It seems to be back. It just disappeared, I couldn’t block posts or anything.

…WHAT HAPPENED TO MY XKIT?

My mother once told me that trauma is like Lord of the Rings. You go through this crazy, life-altering thing that almost kills you (like say having to drop the one ring into Mount Doom), and that thing by definition cannot possibly be understood by someone who hasn’t gone through it. They can sympathize sure, but they’ll never really know, and more than likely they’ll expect you to move on from the thing fairly quickly. And they can’t be blamed, people are just like that, but that’s not how it works.

Some lucky people are like Sam. They can go straight home, get married, have a whole bunch of curly headed Hobbit babies and pick up their gardening right where they left off, content to forget the whole thing and live out their days in peace. Lots of people however, are like Frodo, and they don’t come home the same person they were when they left, and everything is more horrible and more hard then it ever was before. The old wounds sting and the ghost of the weight of the one ring still weighs heavy on their minds, and they don’t fit in at home anymore, so they get on boats go sailing away to the Undying West to look for the sort of peace that can only come from within. Frodos can’t cope, and most of us are Frodos when we start out.

But if we move past the urge to hide or lash out, my mother always told me, we can become Pippin and Merry. They never ignored what had happened to them, but they were malleable and receptive to change. They became civic leaders and great storytellers; they we able to turn all that fear and anger and grief into narratives that others could delight in and learn from, and they used the skills they had learned in battle to protect their homeland. They were fortified by what had happened to them, they wore it like armor and used it to their advantage.

It is our trauma that turns us into guardians, my mother told me, it is suffering that strengthens our skin and softens our hearts, and if we learn to live with the ghosts of what had been done to us, we just may be able to save others from the same fate.

inthewinterigrowantlers:

Worked hard on my presentation today, so I rewarded myself with some sketching time. Roy and Riza on a relaxing Sunday morning.  

WEDDING RINGS

(via haymitchdrinksfirewhiskey)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
Have you ever unsheathed your cane and went whoosh swoosh with it and waved it around like you were a musketeer?
ladynorbert ladynorbert Said:

Well, I’ve only owned the cane for five days. So I haven’t done this yet. But if the opportunity arises, I think I will. :)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
If you were a dragon what type of dragon would you be?
ladynorbert ladynorbert Said:

What do you mean, if?

I am Dragonborn, with the body of a woman and the soul of a Norwegian Ridgeback! (Yes, I just merged Harry Potter and Skyrim. You can’t stop me. No one can stop me.)

Asker Anonymous Asks:
What tea is the best in your opinion?
ladynorbert ladynorbert Said:

Truth be told, I’m not a huge fan of hot beverages in general. However, I do like rooibos, which is a south African herb that has a vaguely vanilla taste.

I do drink iced tea, and I quite like Arizona for that purpose.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
what is your favourite type of herding dog? why?
ladynorbert ladynorbert Said:

What an oddly specific question. I don’t believe I’ve ever given it much thought. But I love watching the border collies at the annual Celtic festival, so let’s go with those.